It’s the definition of “no strings attached”. I was initially sceptical, but this arrangement seems to work for everyone: the wife knows she has no competition from another woman the husband knows he does not want a life with another man. As one man told me: “Sex with another man is not being unfaithful to my wife – it’s just fulfilling my needs and desires.” I’ve even encountered straight men who have “male-on-male playdates” with their wives’ blessing. There is little, or nothing, in the way of guilt. The advent of the internet has made these discreet, anonymous encounters with curious men incredibly easy. In careers such as hairstyling, fashion and design to go- go dancing at gay bars, these straight guys are comfortable enough to play off their sexual appeal as well. I’m in an open marriage with another man, so I’m not interested in falling in love. A new generation of men is feeling free to explore professions, friendships and lifestyles once considered strictly off limits to the hetero-male.
I prefer sex with straight men because they don’t want romance with gay men there’s always the possibility that they could get the wrong end of the stick and want something more. I should know I’ve been sleeping with them since my schooldays.
T here have always been men who have sex with other men, but don’t consider themselves gay or even bisexual.
